He sits down in his recliner after a long, hard day and gives a big sigh as he reaches for the remote.
She gives a big huff, tosses her book to the side, and stomps out of the room.
He watches her leave, shrugs, and then starts to channel surf.
Don’t be mad at him, he just needs a little down time to recharge. And please, please, please don’t pity her: it’s her choice to depend on him for her happiness. And don’t kid yourself, it’s not just women who play this game, nor is it just couples. Parents do it to children, and kids turn right around and do it back to their parents. Bosses do it, drinking buddies do it, best friends do it, lowlifes do it, and sophisticated people do it. It’s as commonplace for the human race as breathing.
When a person chooses to put someone else in charge of their happiness, they’ve set themselves up for a great big fall. You’ve heard it said many times: Happiness (insert: joy, peace, fulfillment, etc.) comes from within. But do you really put it into practice? If you find yourself feeling sad, angry, mad, frustrated, lonely or vindictive toward someone, then you’ve missed the whole point.
A relationship that puts other people in charge of your happiness is built on something, but it ain’t love.
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